On 31st July 2011, I decided to start this Blog. Thank you for being interested enough to want to know about me. I decided to write this blog after having a HUGE wake up call. I lost both of my Dads within the space of 9 months, one suddenly and without warning, and the other very slowly over a period of 10 months. Neither one of them was ‘old‘. It made me realise that growing old is not a birth right, it is a privilege. I realised that most of us take our health and our future for granted until that moment when it is gone.
Knowing this, I decided that life is too short to be unhappy, or not to fulfil my dreams. I was/am a person with high hopes and dreams for a bright future, and now I am living in the present moment, and choosing to be responsible for my own happiness. It is very empowering.
- I’m too busy with work
- I don’t have the money
- I have children to run around after
- Blah blah blah
It’s so easy to find reasons not to get off your butt and be in charge of making your life happen the way you want it to. I realised, whilst I was having counselling to deal with the emotional difficulties in my life that I was so busy trying to control things that I had no power over, yet neglecting the things I actually did… I placed the responsibility for my happiness in the hands of others by being a victim of sadness or somehow holding others accountable for my fulfilment and satisfaction.
It was the wonderful woman who I saw to help counsel me through difficult times that introduced me to the practice of mindfulness and mindful meditation. It was like she had switched on a light inside me, and for the first time, I could see clearly, and I realised that the only thing in this world that I can control is my own decisions.
Whatever the present moment contains, accept it as if you had chosen it… Accept – then act. Always work with it, not against it. Make the present your friend and ally, not your opponent. This will miraculously transform your whole life.
I had 2 paths available to me after what happened: sink or swim… Sink in depression as a victim of bereavement and life or swim with the tide and make it ashore. I am choosing happiness.